"It put the pieces of my heart back together."
For all the medical experts who helped Ava, the biggest turning point in her recovery didn’t occur in a doctor’s office. Instead, it was the place she’d been missing and dreading most – her high school swimming pool.
Practically since age 4, swimming had been her life. When she wasn’t actually in the water, she was talking about it or thinking about it. Plus, she’d been good — really good. The season before her injury, she made states. Returning to the pool brought her face-to-face with everything she’d lost.
“Realizing I would never be able to compete in that same capacity was almost just as difficult, if not more difficult, than realizing that I would never walk again,” Ava says.
Still, she wanted her beloved swim team in her life. At first, she offered to help with scoring and timekeeping. Soon, the kids started coming to her for pointers. Within a few months, she was a full-blown honorary coach.
The younger swimmers, in particular, gravitated to her. They looked to her to celebrate their successes, and perhaps even more, to get through disappointment. She wasn’t one for moping. Instead she’d point out, bluntly, that some days are hard — that’s part of sports, and life. “But if you stay resilient and you give it time, things do improve,” she’d say.
Along the way, she started taking her own advice.
“For a long time, I’d felt like my injury was the end of the world. But coaching these kids helped me turn my point of view around. It helped me put the pieces of my heart back together,” Ava says.
Slowly, she started hanging out again with friends. At school, she was inducted in the National Honor Society. She threw herself into her senior capstone project, which focused on improving accessibility in healthcare. She and her family went on their first cruise. She put Red Sox games and concerts back on the calendar.
“Maybe I can’t go right down to the front row at Fenway Park, but I can still go to games. Maybe I can’t be on the floor at concerts, but I’m still there. I realized I don’t have to give all these parts of myself up,” Ava says. “Yes, things are different now. But sometimes different can be good. Sometimes you can find yourself in a new way.”
At Connecticut Children’s, a place where young patients overcome adversity every day, Ava’s team has marveled at her resilience.
“Trauma can visit any one of us,” says Dr. Martin. “How you deal with that physically is one component. How you deal with it mentally and emotionally is another. Ava has been an inspiration. She is beyond imagination.”